Have you ever thought about how you think about situations or people?
Let me tell you that how you think affects your life
Sometimes we accept out thoughts without question. "I don't like that person, they seem arrogant", "I don't like her she is so obsessed by her looks", have you been in these situations.
You think you know about the person or situation but you have not even got to know the person or understand the situation. So we automatically make a judgement based on what we think.
What I would like you to do is to become to me more opened minded and begin to understand how people think.
There's a saying in NLP that says
"The Map is not the Terrority"
This saying confuses a lot of people. When you see a map of say a city is it the actual city, is it what you see when you get there, for example flat buildings and lines and numbers? Of course not it is only a representation.
When you got a resturant the menu is only a representation of the food.
When we are presented with a situation we see one representation of it. We use our existing information and represent that situation to ourselves. To another person it is completely different - this to me is where so many problems occur. People don't realise that each person has their own map and they can see a situation differently.
WOW! Imagine that, someone elses point of view might actually be different!
We'll go into this in more details tomorrow, but for now try to step back from every situation and really do try to see it from a different perspective - see the change!
To your success
Richard
Friday, September 29, 2006
What is Life Coaching/NLP?
As promised I want to share a bit more about what I do with you.
I am a qualified Life and Business Coach and practioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming.
What is Life Coaching?
Life coaching is, in a nutshell, about helping people get more from their life. You'll see more artsy definitions but for me I like to keep things simple.
Life coaching looks at your present situation and see's how to get you to the future (what ever future you desire). I don't concern myself greatly with the past - if I can learn from it I use it, if not I forget it. Sure that might seem rough, but why should I agonise on something that I can do nothing about in the present or in the future. As I said if I can learn from a past "mistake" or get feedback from it then it is useful.
Life coaching is like a journey I help you go from A to B. Sometimes you find out more about yourself on the journey and realise that B is not where you want to go. Life Coaching will change your life, it will help open you up to new experiences and try different things. However Life Coaching is always about you. I am the facilitator, you make the decisions I simply ask the questions.
What's a Life Coaching Session like?
That's a good question. It's about talking, reflecting and sometimes soul searching. The first session will usually involve a few exercises to see where you are at, at the present time. I'll do an exercise called the Wheel of Life, to see if you think there are areas in your life which you need to work on. There can be many surprises here!
Next we'll start looking at setting a priority to work on, and from their perhaps some goal setting and action planning.
A life coaching session is not something to be afraid of, in fact it is exciting and refreshing. The coach will ask a lot of questions, deep probing questions - it's up to you to answer them honestly, that is, if you wish to make real progress.
What's Neuro Linguistic Programming?
Oh boy where do I start! It is a process or model to help achieve greatness. I use it very effectively with life coaching. It's broken down into three areas:
Neuro - to do with the mind
Linguistic - to do with language
Programming - to do with how we encode information.
You see each one of use feels comfortable when information is explained in a certain way. Do you ever just have a good feeling about somebody when you meet them, perhaps you have heard great things about them, or simply like they way they look? That's all NLP (although you may not know)
Look at below to the hightlighted words!:
You see each one of use feels comfortable when information is explained in a certain way. Do you ever just have a good feeling about somebody when you meet them, perhaps you have heard great things about them, or simply like they way they look? That's all NLP (although you may not know).
People have a preferred method of receiving information. Some people like information explained to them in person (these people work on an auditory level), some people like to see it explained to them (they work on a visual level) and others like to be hands on (they work on a physical or kinesthetic level).
If you can communicate with people on "their level" you will become more effective in communication. The next time you are talking to people listen to the types of words they are using, are they not seeing things, can't see the wood from the trees, or are they getting ready to hit the ground running, perhaps they want to sing from the same hymm sheet.
As you can see NLP is amazing, and that's not even scratching the surface, when you see what you can do with it you will have the most amazing feelings!!
So that's all for today, tomorrow we'll talk a little bit more about how you change how you think.
To your success
Richard Butler
I am a qualified Life and Business Coach and practioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming.
What is Life Coaching?
Life coaching is, in a nutshell, about helping people get more from their life. You'll see more artsy definitions but for me I like to keep things simple.
Life coaching looks at your present situation and see's how to get you to the future (what ever future you desire). I don't concern myself greatly with the past - if I can learn from it I use it, if not I forget it. Sure that might seem rough, but why should I agonise on something that I can do nothing about in the present or in the future. As I said if I can learn from a past "mistake" or get feedback from it then it is useful.
Life coaching is like a journey I help you go from A to B. Sometimes you find out more about yourself on the journey and realise that B is not where you want to go. Life Coaching will change your life, it will help open you up to new experiences and try different things. However Life Coaching is always about you. I am the facilitator, you make the decisions I simply ask the questions.
What's a Life Coaching Session like?
That's a good question. It's about talking, reflecting and sometimes soul searching. The first session will usually involve a few exercises to see where you are at, at the present time. I'll do an exercise called the Wheel of Life, to see if you think there are areas in your life which you need to work on. There can be many surprises here!
Next we'll start looking at setting a priority to work on, and from their perhaps some goal setting and action planning.
A life coaching session is not something to be afraid of, in fact it is exciting and refreshing. The coach will ask a lot of questions, deep probing questions - it's up to you to answer them honestly, that is, if you wish to make real progress.
What's Neuro Linguistic Programming?
Oh boy where do I start! It is a process or model to help achieve greatness. I use it very effectively with life coaching. It's broken down into three areas:
Neuro - to do with the mind
Linguistic - to do with language
Programming - to do with how we encode information.
You see each one of use feels comfortable when information is explained in a certain way. Do you ever just have a good feeling about somebody when you meet them, perhaps you have heard great things about them, or simply like they way they look? That's all NLP (although you may not know)
Look at below to the hightlighted words!:
You see each one of use feels comfortable when information is explained in a certain way. Do you ever just have a good feeling about somebody when you meet them, perhaps you have heard great things about them, or simply like they way they look? That's all NLP (although you may not know).
People have a preferred method of receiving information. Some people like information explained to them in person (these people work on an auditory level), some people like to see it explained to them (they work on a visual level) and others like to be hands on (they work on a physical or kinesthetic level).
If you can communicate with people on "their level" you will become more effective in communication. The next time you are talking to people listen to the types of words they are using, are they not seeing things, can't see the wood from the trees, or are they getting ready to hit the ground running, perhaps they want to sing from the same hymm sheet.
As you can see NLP is amazing, and that's not even scratching the surface, when you see what you can do with it you will have the most amazing feelings!!
So that's all for today, tomorrow we'll talk a little bit more about how you change how you think.
To your success
Richard Butler
Thursday, September 28, 2006
Welcome to the new changehowyouthink.org/changehowyouthink.com blog
Each day I will post an article, musing, quote, story or other inspirational thought to help you through your day
I'm going to start off tomorrow, telling you a little bit about myself and what I do.
I look forward to you reading the blog
Richard Butler
Each day I will post an article, musing, quote, story or other inspirational thought to help you through your day
I'm going to start off tomorrow, telling you a little bit about myself and what I do.
I look forward to you reading the blog
Richard Butler
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