Negative Thoughts

Hi again, sorry yesterday was busy so did not get a chance to blog

Here's the thought for today:
"What the Thinker thinks, the Prover proves"

Read it again, what you think you prove. It's like a little response in your mind that says ok I think i am silly, gotta prove that. How many times does that happen to you.

If you think you can or you think you can't you're right, paraphrased from Henry Ford.

How many times have you said I can't do that? Your mind processes that and decides you are right, and then you can't do it.

Why not start thinking in a more positive manner? Why not think I might not be able to do it now, however if I practice or learn a little bit more I may be able to do it.

We seem, as human beings, to be conditioned to accept failure. "Ah sure I knew it would not work out." "Everything always goes wrong for me", people tend to think like that.

Start to think in a more positive light, after all if you think it might work out, a lot of times it does. Thinking negatively can be so destructive. You think of the worse case scenario's. However sometimes worse case does not happen, in fact in my life I have found that very often worst case does not happen.

So I want you to be more positive in your thoughts.

Tomorrow we'll look at decisions and how important they are to your life

Keep on Keepin' on

Richard Butler
The Success Coach

What are you saying to yourself?

The traffic light system is great to use when you are with others, but why not try it on yourself?

Most of us have self talk - no not those voices in your head that make you do crazy things! But a voice that will tell you that you were stupid to do this or silly for not doing that. This is a normal voice.

What does your voice say? I know mine used to tell me how stupid I was when I did something wrong, or sometimes it said good things, for example when I was drunk I found my inner voice asking if this is what a great life coach does? That soon put me on the straight and narrow!

So what is what your inner voice telling you? Stop and listen to it. So many times are inner voices say negative things to us (sometimes good to protect ourselves), however start saying nice things to yourself. Compliment yourself for a job well done, or when you resisit temptation to eat more or have another drink or cigarette.

As humans we seem to be conditioned for failure, when something goes right we seem to be amazed and stunned, wow that actually worked!

I want you to listen to your inner voice and begin to become more positive.

Try that for the next few days, you will be amazed at how many negative things you say to yourself. We'll explore the idea of negative exposure again tomorrow

Till then keep on keepin' on!

Richard Butler
The Success Coach

The Traffic Light System

The Traffic Light System

This is a new theory that I am working on. It is a very simple theory - I don't believe in making anything difficult.

Traffic lights tell us what to do out on the road
Red Stop
Amber Look out and listen but better to wait
Green is Go

And that's how my system works
Stop what you are doing
Look and Listen to what is going on around you. Listen to what people are saying verbally and look to see what they are doing with their bodies - body language is so important
Go - begin to speak comment when you have found out what is going on.

It's amazing how many people don't look and listen to what's going on, they simply talk and think that others are taking on board what they are saying. Once you stop look and listen you will see the reaction of others which can tell you so much

Too many people just get caught up in themselves - this can be a person's downfall.

So for the next week I want you to stop look and listen

Till tomorrow

Richard

The Map is not the Territory

"The Map is Not the Terrority"

When I was learning NLP this is one thing that really confused me, it took me a while to see what was meant.

Once I understood it my life changed, it really did and so will yours!


Think about a map, it is only a representation of the actual area it is describing. The actual territory/area is different.

Another way of looking at is, the training manual is not the training. What you see in the training manual or seminar manual that you attend is not the actual training or seminar - it is one way of representing it.

So what does this mean to you?

It means that each person has their own map of the world, their own way of representing life and what they think and believe.

We all have different maps, we are all different. Who is to say which "map" is correct?

The next time you have a convsersation with someone remember that they are representing their point of view, or the view as they see it from their map. Respect this!

I really am convinced that communication is the key to all relationships, whether business or personal. People fail to communicate clearly and correctly.

Do you know what the key to great communication is? Listening! How many people don't listen, or at least only listen at a superficial level?

I teach a technique call the "traffic light system" - discover how to this works and you're on your road to success.

Tomorrow I'll delve a little into this technique

Have a great weekend, however much is left of it!

Richard