NLP and Communication

Communication - something we do each and every day and most of us are never trained in how to communicate - yes we should be educated on it.

There's two presuppositions (things we believe to be true) in NLP that I am going to use:
"The Map is not the territory" - this basically means that each person sees the world according to their values, beliefs and experiences. Every one perceives situations differently.

Let's take two examples - three people go to a movie. It's the same movie but each person has a different opinion of it. For example in order to be a "good movie" person A needs it to fill a certain criteria, as does person B and C.

If two people go to a resturant for a meal they can both have different opinions based on what their criteria is for a "good meal".

So how does this help us in communication? Easy really! Understand that you have one point of view and people have another point of view, try to meet them at their map of the world!

The second point to make is this:
"The meaning of the communication is the response that it gets"

We have to be clear in our communication so as not to leave any ambiguity at all. When you speak to someone they will decide what you mean. So:
"I love you" means many things to many people:
The woman who was in a violent relationship may shudder remember that's what "he" said after hitting her
The man who had his heart broken may believe it's a throw away remark, as "she" said that and then messed him about.

Thus we have to remember that what we say and what people may interpet are two different things! This is very important.

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To better communication success

Richard